tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9217237336154080525.post4564232694920194993..comments2023-10-12T05:45:27.216-04:00Comments on balancing act: navigating a rough roadSarah MacLaughlinhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09739308128902024525noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9217237336154080525.post-492675708701173952010-11-27T20:00:43.633-05:002010-11-27T20:00:43.633-05:00Thank you for translating Barbara...I'm honore...Thank you for translating Barbara...I'm honored you've passed on my post. <br /><br />Dear Morag, You are so right about reassuring children that big burdens are not theirs to carry. I address that topic in my book, yet completely neglected it here. Thank you for the reminder. And be WELL! I send you healing and light. It sounds like you have been on a long journey. <br /><br />Best, SarahSarah MacLaughlinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09739308128902024525noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9217237336154080525.post-23237169642652705352010-11-23T11:13:01.970-05:002010-11-23T11:13:01.970-05:00I had a brain tumour earlier this year, which was ...I had a brain tumour earlier this year, which was mostly removed by surgery, and then the inaccessible bits were treated by a major course of radiotherapy. It is not gone, but it is controlled. I am lucky in that it was found by chance, and I have felt well throughout. But - as you say - no-one knows the future.<br /><br />My husband died of cancer 5 years ago (very short but complicated story), so our two children have already lost one parent, when they were 4 and 6. Since then, I have been honest with them throughout, answering any questions and talking about Daddy with them.<br /><br />Because of their history, my own illness has been less shocking to them than it would be to many children. And I am thankful for small mercies (though both see a counsellor once a month, just in case anything is buried deep).<br /><br />One thing I would stress, which you haven't mentioned in your post, is that children often need to be reassured that the cancer is not because of anything they have done or not done. Young children often shoulder the most tremendous burdens, and never give any outward clue of doing so.Moraghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04888817979720930393noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9217237336154080525.post-91754653236748412532010-11-19T05:41:36.013-05:002010-11-19T05:41:36.013-05:00Dear sarah, I've translated this post in Itali...Dear sarah, I've translated this post in Italian and published it on our site for parents, I hope it is ok with you:<br />http://www.genitorichannel.it/esperienze/421-come-parlare-di-cancro-ai-bambinibarbara_siliquini@yahoo.comhttp://www.genitorichannel.itnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9217237336154080525.post-3139816007218857042010-10-28T14:36:09.738-04:002010-10-28T14:36:09.738-04:00Thank you so much for writing this, so beautiful a...Thank you so much for writing this, so beautiful and important. It's a conversation that I dread having with my daughter (3 of her 4 grandparents had cancer, 1 of whom - my mother - passed away). I think just being calm and loving and open is key, as well as not making the "C-word" any scarier than it is.Kristinahttp://www.hey-red.net/365noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9217237336154080525.post-78107452584940805552010-10-26T13:53:23.861-04:002010-10-26T13:53:23.861-04:00wonderful post! thanks!wonderful post! thanks!Lacey Janehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11533421602195854498noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9217237336154080525.post-21848949478205745692010-10-26T09:05:17.643-04:002010-10-26T09:05:17.643-04:00Beautiful post, Sarah, and your suggestions are so...Beautiful post, Sarah, and your suggestions are so logical and straightforward. Thank you for sharing!Dionna @ Code Name: Mamahttp://codenamemama.comnoreply@blogger.com